I’ve had many people question my heritage in recent days. From acquaintances to in-laws to longtime friends, several people have told me that I am not white trash.
Much of this conversation stemmed from my column last week in which I declared myself a White Trash American. I’ve never been ashamed of my roots, and discuss my low rent background openly and freely.
Still, people see me today wearing a tie and conjugating my verbs properly and don’t believe I could have come from the trailer parks of Kokomo. See, that’s a mistake many people make. They believe all White Trash Americans are slack-jawed morons. One must be careful when making assumptions about an entire group of people.
Being white trash doesn’t mean you are stupid. Generally it means you haven’t caught a lot of breaks in life, and in many cases, you just don’t know any better. White trash kids have no control over the fact they were born into poor families. As such, they often don’t get the same educational or cultural opportunities as those born into wealthier families. As a result, they grow up in a world with limited learning and earning potential, and live their entire life in poverty. They have children, and the cycle continues.
I was the first person in my entire family to go to college. That doesn’t mean the rest of my family was dumb. It means I had good grades, caught some breaks and got opportunities people I grew up with did not.
But never mistake the fact that I am white trash. Just a couple examples from my childhood.
My dad bought an old used Jeep when I was a teenager. It didn’t have a canvas top with it. So rather than spend the money on one, he built his own – out of plywood. So as a freshman in high school, I would be dropped off at school each morning in a red Jeep with a big, black, square wooden top on it. In my mind, it was humiliating. In my dad’s mind, he was saving money he could use to buy his seven children food.
My dad was a plumber, who fancied himself a funny guy. Our mailbox was cemented into an old toilet bowl. A wooden sign was fashioned onto the mailbox post that read “junk mail” and had an arrow pointing down to the bowl. To my dad, it was witty. To me, it meant I couldn’t bring anyone from school home to my house. I’ve got hundreds of these types of examples.
People have told me that at least I was able to leave my past behind thanks to my education. Well, as the saying goes, you can take the boy out of the trailer park, but you can’t take the trailer park out of the boy. Besides, the boy would take his trailer with him and move it to a new trailer park.
I’ve not exactly left my white trash ways behind, you see. Many times during my adult life, I’ve had more than one car. Of course only one worked at a time. When a part from one breaks, you take a spare from another, essentially creating a “frankencar.” Those cars have had their share of clothes hanger antennas, too. The rehearsal dinner for my first marriage was held at Ponderosa. I use to never throw away socks. I would sew the toes and heals and keep the same pair for decades. Once again, I’ve got hundreds of examples.
My current – and last – wife, Michelle, is responsible for making me look shinier than I am. This Tuesday we will have been married eight years. She has civilized me.
Michelle is from the exact opposite end of the social ladder than me. Her people have class and sophistication. They write thank you letters anytime someone gives them anything. They have cocktail parties with hors d’oeuvres, and serve beer in glasses. Her family resembles a Norman Rockwell painting, whereas mine resembles a Far Side comic.
Michelle has taught me it is OK to buy a replacement when something has broken rather than trying to duct tape everything back together. She, to some degree, has ended my longstanding practice of recycling Kleenex.
While my eyes have been opened to new things, and I’ve grown in my ability to move and function in polite society, I never forget from where it is that I came. Some might be embarrassed about being white trash, but not me. My upbringing made me who I am. I appreciate hard work, and the value of a buck. I am thankful for everything I have, and I never look down on others who have less. I am a White Trash American, and proud of it.